Hubby Didn't Get Any This Weekend, & Here Is How I Feel About It.

Let me tell y'all a quick story. My husband and I spent the weekend at this gorgeous spa resort in the Cotswolds with some friends. We had the whole vibe planned out—think lingerie, spicy games, and bedroom toys! Sis, I was ready! But guess what? Reality had other plans. Instead of those wild nights, we ended up in comfy PJs, cuddling, and watching American Gangster. And the next night? I was up laughing at Instagram videos while he was knocked out cold.

Here’s the thing: sometimes, what we envision for our relationship, our dating life, or even our weekend won’t match up with reality. And you know what? That’s okay. It’s a chance to learn to be okay with the quiet moments, to give yourself and your partner grace, and to get excited about what’s next.

So, what does this have to do with dating?

When you’re out there, meeting new people, you might have a vision of how things are supposed to go—how the date should flow, how that chemistry should feel. But then reality steps in, and maybe it’s not all roses and romance. Sis, your story is not over just because it didn’t match your fantasy.

Here’s how to handle it:

1. Stay Open to the Unexpected: Things don’t go as planned sometimes, but that doesn’t mean it’s a loss. Maybe that date wasn’t fireworks, but it could be the start of something deeper if you give it a chance.

   
   

2. Give Yourself and Him Grace: Not every moment is going to be a 10 out of 10, and that’s okay. We all have off days, and sometimes, what you need is patience. Don’t write someone off too fast—let things unfold naturally.

   
   

3. Reflect and Keep it Pushing: Take a step back and ask yourself, "What did I learn here?" Could you have communicated your needs differently? Was it just an off day? Self-reflection will help you grow and get closer to the love you truly desire.

   
   

4. Stay Excited for What’s Next: Sis, just because one moment didn’t live up to your expectations doesn’t mean the next one won’t blow your mind! Stay open, stay hopeful, and keep your heart ready for the blessings that are still on their way.

   
   

Not every moment is going to be the fantasy you envisioned, but that’s part of the journey. Whether it's a quiet cuddle session or a steamy date night, it’s all a part of your beautiful story. And trust me, the best chapters are still ahead. Keep going, keep believing, and stay open to the surprises life throws your way!

XO,

Shani L

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