"Level Up Your Love Life: 90 Days to Attract the One in 2024"

In my last blog post, we talked about how my fertility journey mirrors your search for “the one.” As I reflected more on this, something stirred in me—many women don’t like the idea of “searching” for the one. Maybe it sounds desperate, feels misaligned, or your ego is telling you that you don’t need to “search” for anyone.

But what if we thought about "searching for the one" not as a frantic race but as embarking on a meaningful journey of discovery—like searching for a rare gem hidden beneath the earth? When you're looking for treasure, you don’t rush or dig aimlessly. Instead, you prepare yourself. You gather your tools, sharpen your skills, and, most importantly, tune your mindset to the process, knowing it requires patience and purpose.

Reframing the Search: It’s a Journey, Not a Chase

Imagine you're on this expedition. You’re navigating different terrains—some rocky, some smooth—each teaching you something new about yourself. Every step forward sharpens your vision, your instincts, and your understanding of what truly matters to you.

It’s not about finding something for the sake of finding it. It’s about becoming someone who can recognize and appreciate the treasure when you finally uncover it.

This way, the “search” is not desperate or frantic; it’s a growth process. You’re refining yourself, learning, healing, and becoming more in tune with what brings you joy, peace, and fulfillment. By the time you stumble upon that rare gem—that connection with “the one”—you’ll realize that it’s not just the treasure that has transformed. You have evolved into the woman who is ready to receive it.

It's Not About the Search; It’s About Who You Become

Instead of viewing the search as a desperate chase, see it as an exciting journey where you’re becoming the best version of yourself. By the time you meet "the one," you'll not only recognize them, but you'll also feel fully deserving of the love they bring.

With that in mind, let's bring it back to where we left off last week.

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Reigniting Your Dating Spark in 2024: A Step-by-Step Guide

Last week, we explored how to reignite your dating journey and set yourself up for success over the next 90 days. It’s time to pick up from where we left off and dive deeper into the steps to help you get there.

Visualize Your Ideal Dating Journey

Start by asking yourself: If my dating journey could unfold exactly how I wanted it to—without fears, blockages, or self-doubt—what would it look like?

Here’s how to break it down:

• How would you feel? Confident? Free? Feminine? Desired? Imagine walking into every date or interaction with a sense of calm and excitement, knowing you are worthy of the love you seek.

• How would you speak about your experience? Would you share stories with excitement, recounting positive encounters and deep connections? Envision yourself joyfully talking about your dating journey, feeling aligned with your heart and soul.

• How would men and others receive you? Do you want to be seen as magnetic, intriguing, captivating, or elegant? Picture the way people light up when they meet you, drawn to your energy.

• How do you want to show up? What version of yourself steps into the room? Whether soft, poised, radiant, confident, or playful and carefree, envision the energy you want to project.

• What will you be wearing? Imagine dressing in a way that makes you feel empowered and comfortable—whether it’s a chic evening dress, casual yet stylish attire, or your favorite heels that boost your confidence.

• What would you be declaring? In your heart, what truths are you holding onto? Perhaps: “I deserve true love,” or “I attract healthy, fulfilling relationships with ease.” These declarations serve as your dating mantras.

• What adjectives would describe your journey at the end of 90 days? Words like aligned, joyful, expansive, fulfilling, and effortless may come to mind. Choose adjectives that capture the essence of how you want your journey to feel.

  
  

Dating for Pleasure vs. Dating for Purpose

Once you’ve envisioned your dating journey, the next step is to ask yourself: Am I dating for pleasure or purpose?

• Dating for Pleasure means enjoying the experience without any pressure to settle down. It’s about meeting new people, having fun, and learning more about yourself. You may want to connect casually, flirt, and enjoy companionship without deep expectations.

• Dating for Purpose: This approach is more intentional. You’re seeking a long-term relationship that aligns with your vision for the future—marriage, partnership, and building a life together. Your energy is focused on clarity, alignment, and finding someone who shares your values and long-term goals.

  
  

It allows you to be honest with yourself and those you meet, ensuring you don’t waste time in situations that aren’t right for your current season.

Set Mini-Goals to Make It Happen

Now that you’ve embodied the vision and determined whether you’re dating for pleasure or purpose, it’s time to set mini goals to make the process tangible and manageable.

Examples of Mini Goals:

• Self-Preparation (Weeks 1-2):

  • Write down daily affirmations that reflect your dating vision.

  • Take care of your mental and physical health by engaging in activities that boost your self-esteem.

  • Do a wardrobe refresh to align with how you want to present yourself during this journey.

• Getting Out There (Weeks 3-4):

  • Join a dating app with a fresh mindset. Update your profile to reflect your new goals.

  • Attend one social event per week, whether it’s a singles’ mixer or a hobby group where you can meet like-minded people.

  • Commit to going on at least 2-3 dates per month.

• Building Connections (Weeks 5-7):

  • Be open, present, and genuine in your conversations. Focus on being curious and attentive.

  • Be upfront about your intentions—whether you’re dating for pleasure or purpose.

  • Evaluate your connections: Are they in line with the vision you’ve set? Adjust if needed.

• Reflection and Adjustment (Weeks 8-9):

  • Reflect on your experience and the adjectives you chose at the beginning. Are you feeling expansive, joyful, and aligned? If not, make adjustments.

  • Decide whether to continue with the same approach or shift if your desires have evolved.

• Celebrating Wins (Week 10):

  • Acknowledge what you’ve learned about yourself. Celebrate the growth, regardless of the outcome.

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Ready for a Personalized Strategy?

If you feel inspired but need help crafting your plan, I’m here for you! Sign up for my 90-Minute Dating Intensive Call, where we’ll work together to:

• Clarify your dating goals—whether for pleasure or purpose

• Create a personalized 90-day plan tailored to your lifestyle

• Identify key steps to align your actions with your vision

• Ensure you have actionable strategies you can put into play immediately

If you're ready to take charge of your dating journey with clarity and confidence, click here to book your spot, and let’s ignite your path to love!